“For a same sex relationship to work, they should accept theirselves, their identity.”
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The Love of Siam

October 19, 2008

   The effect of the mise-en-scene and cinematography is verisimilitude: a simulation of reality, naturalism that the audience can relate to instantly. Stylistically, The Love Of Siam allows audience to easily identify with the issues, characters and their situations in the film.

Apart from the technical aspects that have achieved its intended effect, there’s one character that will capture your full attention.

The cutest boy in the cast that will not only make sure you have your eyes on the screen every second but also wish you have a Thai-German boyfriend that looks exactly like him.

Mario Maurer, plays the character Tong in the film, who falls in love with his childhood best friend and neighbour, Mew, played by Witwisit Hiranyawongkul.

Tong belongs to a staunch Christian family who faces problems as their daughter, Tong’s elder sister Tang, goes missing. As Tong’s parents leave him to stay with Mew and his grandmother while they look for their daughter, the friendship/love between Tong and Mew develops.

Perhaps what draws gay audience’s attention is not merely because of the cute boy. And neither does the setting in Thailand distances us. But the issues such as societal norms and expectations, peer pressure, family values and objections are all too familiar and resonates in most of us.

For instance, Sunee, Tong’s mother witnesses her son kissing Mew and was negatively impacted. What’s new?

Her inability to accept what she saw caused her to confront Mew, where she said to him:

“Tong is the only one we have left, and I don’t want to see him taking a path that is not right … In the future, when Tong has graduated, he has to find a job, save money, and look for a good wife, get married and have a happy family; where they can take care of each other when they grow old. That is life, Mew. I tried to make sure he grows up that way. Do it for Tong, Mew. Stop this relationship that you have with him.”

My heart sank. It was something that I could not only understand but completely relate to. The pervasiveness of social norms and what is expected of us, or Tong as the only son in the film, haunts us. Until we can find a solution that can free us from the entrenchment of designated social roles and responsibilites, some of us will find that we will still have to hide our true emotions as Mew did.
Along with social norms, there is peer pressure where Tong’s friends appear insensitive and not understanding of his frustrations. Thus, the issue of understanding and coming to terms to one’s self-identity or sexuality becomes not only an evident but personal struggle. It often reminds us of the harsh reality that we are not individuals living alone in a vacuum but with one another in a heteronormative society.

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Bisexuality

September 9, 2008

Bisexuality is being sexually attracted to both males and females.

Some people believe we are all potentially bisexual and that each person simply tilts more one way or another. For others, bisexuality is a very specific way of being that’s quite distinct from homo- or heterosexuality. Still others feel bisexuals are gay people who have trouble accepting themselves. In the same way that ideas differ about what exactly bisexuality is, people who have mixed sexual preferences have different ways of defining themselves. Some people are comfortable with labels like “bisexual,” “bi-curious” or “questioning.” Some call themselves “gay” or “straight” instead. Others choose not to name their orientation at all. One way of seeing bisexuality is as part of a “continuum“–with gay and straight extremes at either end and an endless variety of sexual preferences in between. The continuum makes sense especially to people whose sexuality changes over time.
 
Bisexuals often feel pressure to choose between gay and straight. “Coming out” as bisexual can be especially hard for this reason. Some people miss the more clearly defined, socially supported position at one end of the continuum or the other.
 
When a friend comes out to you as bisexual, it can be confusing and may raise questions about your own attitude towards bisexuality. You may be upset if your friend is hurt by other people’s reactions and might feel uncomfortable if you think your friend is sexually interested in you. Even if it’s difficult, being supportive will probably make a huge difference to her or him.

Bisexual Relationships

For some, bisexual relationships can be more complicated than straight, gay or lesbian relationships. However, regardless of your sexuality, it is important to be open and honest with your partner/s, about feelings of attraction to other people. Like everyone else, bisexual people fall in love and form committed relationships. These may be with a man, a woman, a transgendered person, or with more than one person. There are no rules that bisexual people follow in relationships- everyone is free to make them up for themselves.

 

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Are you ready to be criticized?

This is what i would like to share to all who encounter the same manner as i am right now.  I know many of us who experienced the same identity still are doubt and and why i am like this.

~Hugz~

Are you ready to be criticized?

This was the biggest part im having a problem with.  Deep inside me i would love to express the way i am, but i am afraid to be criticized to those malicious minded that sorrounds.  This is the hardest time that i’ve been dealing with, where it came to the point that i almost give up and end up everything.  But i just realize that it is not only me who experienced the same identity crisis, 80% of male population does, and i am one of them. 

Day by day as i seek the truth, face the consequences, conquer the burden that i am suffering right now and is not an easy thing to do.  I’ve been a lot of criticism when i was in High, i tend to live to be looner as i am ashame of myself and afraid to be teased by everyone.  I felt i was tamed not to mingle with colleagues, depressed and demoralized.  Outcast and doubt feeling it was, but i was still hoping everything has an end.

I enter new dimension in life when i came in tertiary, the environment was a bit open, i never had hard times discovering new faces around me.  I gain a little bit confidence to myself and slowly covered up my identity and seeking to understand the crucial stage am i into.  Accross the road, meeting various types of identity and sum up and observed how they carry themselves with confidentiality.  I met persons who had the same feelings, emotions, mutual identity as me.  I carefully entwined and conived the experiences that we had with in some various cases.  In such a way i slowly became a person and know my identity and beginning to understand the beauty of life and the acceptance of being BISEXUAL.

 

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